Question:
I am engaged. My fiancé says we have to sit together and go out alone away from people to be closer. What is legally allowed during the time of engagement?
The answer:
Most of what we see now during the time of engagement isn't allowed by Islam. Islam has permitted engagement but on conditions, firstly: Khelwa (privacy) is not allowed, and this is for the sake of the girl. What does this mean? We mean that they aren’t allowed to be alone together in an enclosed place but they can sit in an open place or room as other people can see them.
Going out with him is prohibited without her Mahram (father or brother) this protects a girl at this time of engagement, because people will see and talk about her saying that she was going out with so and so, but she can sit with him at her father's house as we said before or they can go out with mahram such as her father, her brother or anyone from her family and every one agrees about that.
The prophet has taught us in the Hadith: "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil is sitting with them as their third." It means when they both are in a closed place, this is a fact because even if she trusts herself 100%, can she trust in him? Maybe he looks as a gentleman but in Khelwa he may change. Islam says you should take all precautions.
When you sit or go out with him according to these conditions, flirty speech is prohibited with him as you are still a stranger to him and if he leaves you or goes away, he will talk about you.http://www.fawzyabuzeid.com/table_books.php?name=%DD%CA%C7%E6%EC+%CC%C7%E3%DA%C9+%E1%E1%E4%D3%C7%C1&id=17&cat=2
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