الأربعاء، 20 أغسطس 2014

Birth Control and Family Planning


Question: 

What is the difference between birth control and family planning? 
The answer: 
Birth Control is forbidden, it means that women stop completely childbearing. Now, scientists invented several ways to get a woman completely sterile and not to give birth any more, this is forbidden. 
But family planning means that a woman gives birth from time to time because this is the order of the Qur'an as God orders a woman to breastfeed her child for two years, God says: 
"Mothers who have given birth shall suckle their babies for a period of two whole years." Surat Al-Bakarah verse 233. 
After the two years according to lunar calendar, if a woman wants to get pregnant after that she can do it, then there is about 3 years between babies two years if suckling and the period of pregnancy.
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Giving promise of marriage


Question: 
Is it permissible for a man to promise a girl of marriage? Please advise us, may God reward you. 
The answer: 
A young man should only promise a girl of marriage if he has the ability to do it or on the way where he can achieve that. Here, a girl has to ask him to perform his promise and come to her parents proposing to marry her, the promise must be with her family, so as to be away from any deceive or deception for our Muslim girls. If he does not come to your family, he is deceptive, so forget him completely.
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Friendship between young men and women at university


Question: 
Is it permissible for a girl to deal with her colleagues men at university? If so, How? 
The answer: 
It is permissible for a girl to cooperate with her colleagues men as long as it is necessary, like taking notes or asking him a question provided that it is done in a polite manner as Allah says: 
"Be not too complacent of speech, lest one in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire: but speak you a speech (that is) just." 
Speech must be with just. How? There must be three conditions: 
Firstly: Seriousness in speech and words, the modern style of speech or etiquette at work or university that a girl must smile first if she wants to speak with her colleague young man. It is not permissible because smiling only allowed with her unmarriageable people. If you smile to a man, he thinks that you love him, this is the nature of youth, so God says: "Speak you a speech (that is) just". Speech that is not soft or flirty. Speech must be normal and may be a little rough and serious in the type of speech and its duration. It means it can be just few words about a lecture or such things, but there is no need to expand the speech, just a question and an answer. 
Secondly: Modesty must be among us, this is the order of Islam to us. We should not look in each other's eyes as we are talking. You may think this is strange in our society but this is Islam because Allah and his Messenger order a woman not to look in a man's eyes as they are talking and he does the same because this is essential in relationship between them. I say it again and again when a man and a woman are talking they should not look in each other's eyes as sight is the mail of the heart, he or she can look up or down or right or left to avoid looking in each other's eyes, because sight vanish the barriers and it stirs the inner desire inside man or woman. The second barrier is shaking hands, salam or greetings should be only by tongue not by hands and if once they have to do it, it should be by fingers' ends. 
Thirdly: These dealings should be in public, not in the cafeteria or he invites her for tea or she gives him a chocolate and so on, as this gets them in doubt. They should not stay later together at university or get there earlier than others or get out of university everyday together. They should not get on transport together and he acts as her body guard, they should not be together in private or closed place and if they talk they should be serious and away from smiles, laughs and looks even if in study.
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Gifts before marriage



Question: 
How Islam sees gifts that a groom gives to his fiance or the woman he contracted marriage with her but not consummated marriage yet? 
The answer: 
If marriage is not completed because of her, she has to return all the precious gifts or perennials such as gold, household appliances and tools, but no need to return consumed gifts such as food, beverages and clothes. If separation is because of him and he has no justifications or excuses to leave her, she has the choice return his gifts or keep them but shabka (golden gifts for a fiance) is the same as dowry.
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Relationship after contracting a marriage



Relationship after contracting a marriage and 
before consummation 
Question: 
My marriage was contracted and the wedding ceremony will be after short time. My husband tells me I am his lawful wife. Is that right? Is it a sin if I disobey him at that? 
The answer: 
If man has completed his contract of marriage to a woman, she should not think that everything becomes permissible. Yes after contracting the marriage you become his wife but this is never completed except after the wedding ceremony and after people see and know that. God does not permit other things for Muslim males or females. A wise Muslim girl does not allow such things and she only allows man to act as a husband after the wedding ceremony, something bad may happens and he leaves her before the wedding and she gets confused and puts herself and her family in a big problem as she did a big sin. She can not protect herself from society who knows that she has not completed her marriage yet. We should not neglect such small things as they lead to big sins. So it is not disobedience if you prevent him before the wedding ceremony. 
So, we always repeat advice to our sisters and daughters to contract the marriage at the wedding night to avoid all these problems and complications. We seek guidance of Allah to the right way.

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Performing prayers wearing half sleeves


Question: 

Is it permissible for a woman to lessen some of her clothes while she is performing prayers if she is alone? For example: Wearing half sleeves clothes? 
The answer: 
There is nothing wrong in that. Imam Malik has permitted for a woman to pray wearing half sleeves but inside her room not in the middle of the house because anyone may enter the house when she is performing prayers so she must be inside her room and the door is closed. Imam Malik said: "There is nothing wrong to lessen some of her clothes, for example, she can pray wearing half sleeves or her clothes cover under her knee and the rest of her leg appears if she performs prayers inside her closed bedroom. 
If she performs prayers in the middle of her house, it is not permissible to let anything from her body appear except her face and her hands and it is forbidden if anything even simple things appear. 
It is prohibited even for a lock of hair to appear, only the face is allowed. Some of us think there is nothing wrong if the neck appears but it is wrong because only the face and the hands are allowed not the neck nor hair nor any part of arm or leg if she performs prayers in the middle of the house. 
So we advise women in Hajj (pilgrimage) to wear socks in, why? Because men and women perform prayers next to each other and may be during prostration part of her leg appears, so she must wear socks to cover all her body.

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The Dawn (Fajr) Prayer



The Dawn (Fajr) Prayer, Morning Prayer and 
optional Prayer of Fajr ________________________________________ 
Question: 
Is the Morning Prayer called Dawn (Fajr) Prayer? What is the difference between two rak'ahs of Fajr sunnah and Morning Prayer? 
The answer: 
The Morning Prayer is the Fajr Prayer because Allah says in the Holy Qur'an (Surat Al-fajr): 
"By Dawn. By the ten (highly esteemed) nights." 
And says in Surat Al-Takweer (the contraction): 
"And by the breath of morning." 
All that asserts that the Morning is Fajr, the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) has asserted and confirmed on Fajr Prayer and Isha 'Prayer, he said: 
"The most difficult prayer for hypocrites are Fajr and Isha 'Prayers but if they know what is Allah's rewards and bounties for these prayers, they will perform them even if they came (to the mosque) crawling." 
So there is no difference between Morning Prayer and Fajr Prayer. We do not want to get into disagreement about names as this is not found in the religion of Allah's The Almighty. 
But supererogatory Prayer is two rak'ahs of Fajr Sunnah before dawn
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Non-documented Marriage






Question about non-documented marriage? 
The answer: 
Non-documented marriage is that which not registered by the marriage official or registrar in the authorized Real Estate. 
This marriage started when the husbands of some women died and they take pension, if they get married officially by a marriage official, the salary or the pension will stop so they circumvent to continue take the salary. This marriage is not legal because they take money that does not belong to them illegally. 
This marriage is developed after that to university where there are girls with young men. 
When the girl goes to this new life, the devil whispers to her and she says "I want to live my life," she talks, walks and loves different guys, but at this time they can not afford marriage and at the same time their families will not agree, what will they do? 
They agree to do non-documented marriage and they only write a paper between each other away from her and his family. This is the big problem among students in universities because after graduation he denies her and says he never knows her and consequently her life is destroyed. Sometimes she gets pregnant and gives birth but he says the baby is not his son and he does not know him. So she destroys her life herself. Sometimes her family knows and disavows her too and she turns to vice as you hear and read. 
The most important thing in this subject is the girl; so God started by her first because no one can touch her without her will as Allah says: 
"The woman and the man stained by adultery," Surat Annoor verse 2. 
So, non-documented marriage is forbidden in all Islamic schools. If a young man wants her he should go to her family and proposes. 
We should not exaggerate marriage expenses as the apostle (PBUH) said: 
"The best women of my nation are those whose faces are shinning and those who have lower dowry." (After A'isha Jame'a Al-Ahadeeth Wal-Maraseel.) 
So we should facilitate for the youth because work opportunities now are unavailable. 
I like what happened in Edfoo, people chose one from every family and they gathered and agreed to a document that the gift for a girl before marriage should not be more than 5 hundred pounds and they banned expensive ceremonies, they just allowed necessary things the new house needs and other things such as television etc will come after that, so we should facilitate, and I see lots of marriages were done here, and by this our boys and girls are modest and achieve their goals.
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I hate my husband how can I live with him


Question: 

How can I continue in my marriage while love between us has turned to be hatred? I need someone loves and be passionate to me as now we have children and I get tired taking care of them? 
The answer: 
Sisters, suppose with the developments of life love, cordiality and compassion fled from our lives, suppose the wife hated her husband, as the question says, does she have the right to know another one for love and lives with her husband for the interest, as people do in the western world now? 
That is not permissible in Islam. First: she should be patient about God's will, and she will soon get unprecedented rewards. I remind her and you all of what the Prophet said in the Hadith to both husband and wife if they have more problems and each one only sees the bad side of the other, he said: 
"A male believer (husband) should not hate a female believer (wife), if he hated one of her habits, he is pleased by another." 
God says: 
"(You men) Live with them (your wives) on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them it may be that you dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good. "Surat Annesa 'verse 19. 
Now, if there has been acrimony and hatred replaced love as she said, she should know that her husband is suffering like her, even if she sees him does not care about it. In fact, both of them need the other, and today, after long life between them and children, they need each other more and success reasons exist between them, but they should understand that they both are responsible for that, and they both have to solve all problems not anyone else and not only one of them. If we investigate the matter, we will see that both of them are responsible for the hatred. If the wife has repaired herself and the husband does the same, the relationship will be good again. They must act together but the nature of human beings that no one wants to show that he is wrong. She wants to prove that he was wrong, and he wants to prove that she was wrong, this leads to dispute. 
But if we sit together and follow the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His messenger, and we know the duty of everyone towards the other and how to deal properly with each other and that we both were wrong and then accept each other's apology, we should both take covenant to keep to these rights and care about these duties and everyone cares about the other's feelings and sensations same as he requires for himself. 
If we do that life between us will return again God's willing. Love and compassion bird will come back flapping its wings again by the blessing of the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of His beloved (Blessing 
and peace of God be upon him).

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الاثنين، 18 أغسطس 2014

Don't make your children on probation

Question:
I'll give birth soon God's willing, what should I do to prepare for the new born? And what you advise me about that?
The answer:
If a marital life continues, naturally Allah will grant us children. I told all of you before to prepare for marriage by studying rights and duties so when the time to have children comes, the couple must read a book about the ethics and the rights of children in religion. 
The wife should learn how to receive her child to bring him up according to the right way of Islam, and the father should educate children and bring them up the right way. They should both know that the newcomer will take a lot of time and expenses so they must prepare together to those requirements. They should cooperate, advise each other and not ignore each other because of the responsibilities and demands of the newcomer. Children are supposed to make relationship stronger and increase intimacy and love.
I also warn you to an important matter, a wise wife realizes that her husband always needs her. Some fathers get envious because of mother's great care of the child, so do not forget that there is a "big child" needs you. You should not neglect yourself to take care of the newborn or you will lose the father.
A wise husband also shouldn't get too busy seeking work and leave home because of the increasing demands and responsibilities of life, he neglects his wife and children forgetting that his wife needs psychological and emotional care from him and that educating and upbringing children is a common duty.




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