الخميس، 3 يوليو 2014

Asking God for guidance in marriage

Question:
What if a young man insists to get married to a girl brought up in a bad environment and her family never keeps to prayer or morality, but he insists on the engagement?
The answer:
Religion has given us two things, the apostle of God said:
“He never gets disappointed that who asks God for proper guidance and he never regrets that who consults others.”
What should a believer man or woman do about engagement? They should ask Allah for guidance and pray the prayers of asking God for guidance (Istekhara) and supplicate God. If there is no result after doing it once, it doesn’t mean that you must see a dream but you just feel like or dislike the matter, you can repeat it again up to seven times and God will confirm and show him or her the right way as He wills.
Besides Istekhara they (the man and the woman) also need parents and family consultation.
It is known that marriage must be after parents’ agreement, if his parents doesn’t want him to marry a girl, he shouldn’t marry her against their will because if he does, God’s curse and anger will be stuck to him during his life and in the hereafter. If he insists to marry her without their agreement, where is parents’ obedience?
To be obedient and kind to parents in Islam means they must agree to the marriage, if they don’t agree I should leave the girl and look for another, and I’ll find the best one for me by the blessing of their agreement. The same thing concerns the girl, if her parents refuse a man and she escapes with him, she will face lots of problems and that is what we see now.
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Performing prayer wearing gloves

Question: 
What if one wants to perform prayers while she is wearing gloves?
The answer:
It is allowed and it is the same as when your knee touches the ground with clothes on it, suppose that we are in winter and it is very cold and she wants to pray, does she have to take off gloves to pray? It is permissible to pray with gloves.
Wearing gloves is better for a woman if she performs prayers in a mosque but if she performs 
prayers at her house she can do or not.
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"Good men are for good women" What does this mean?

The answer:
Allah always speaks about the essence. Sometimes appearance may be different from essence, so God always makes a good essence meet a good essence. A girl sometimes imitates her colleagues in appearance that indicates she is not good, but after marriage the appearance go away and her reality appears and indicates that she is as good as him. Sometimes he looks the same but after marriage his good essence appears, as God says:
"Good men are for good women" (Surat -Aunoor verse 26)
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) says about the essence: "People are metals like silver and gold." Saheeh Muslim after Abi-Horayra.
I have an important piece of advice, I have been asked many times about the delay of veiled girls’ marriage. Some of you wanted to take off the veil to get married, and some mothers tell their daughters to be easy and let young men see their beauty and their hair and after that they can wear hijab.
Here, your essence appears, if it is good, you shouldn't agree to appear disrespectful, because by that you seek a disrespectful man. So don't say how I marry a disrespectful man. You say you only take off your hijab in order to get married but may be after marriage he doesn’t allow you to wear hijab or he will be indulgent and impolite man. A girl who has the good original essence doesn't give up the law of God to get married. A man who has a good essence will come seeking a girl who has a good essence and he will appreciate, love and protect you but as much as you are patient you will be given rewards.
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